My Children are my life!

What kind of man would not fight for the opportunity to shape and influence their childrens' lives? Even in the most difficult of circumstances, no matter what the financial cost or emotional tribulation.

I understand that there are members of the male species who are ambivolent to the true meaning of fatherhood or the responsiblity that it intails but it seems to be more of the gender than not. It is very disappointing to me being in such a minority.

I understand that every circumstance is different for example I know a man who did not marry his oldest sons' mother and fought for his rights but has had to take the approach of "He will be 18 soon" and it sucks cause he still has to deal with financial obligation even though he hasn't seen him or been a part of his life for six years. My heart goes out to him and his wife and youngest son. It is not right when children are used as weapons.

I know another man who very much wants to be apart of his three daughters' lives. His ex-wife is makingit difficult for him by make very slanderous statements about him to the county superior court in our town. What a shame. It situations like this that make me want to help in anyway I can. I loudly applaude the man for taking care of his business and focusing in on his children. In the same breath I scorn a woman who would deny a father the right to be a dad.

After all there does come a point in some mens' brain where its' not about the mother of his children anymore but about his children, the chance to teach them to be a good citizen, to obey the rules and love everyone and it will come back to you. But yet it's hard to belive there are slugs that will leave thier own blood and then try to be a father to another mans' children?
Go figure?

What do you think of these thoughts? Do you think I am an idealist? Do you think I expect to much of men or to little? Mayby you think I'm a jerk (or worse) Please keep in mind that this post applies to mom's to. (I scorn a man too who witholds the children from a woman wanting to be a mom) Let's talk about it.

As for me, I must be blessed with strong genetics and a desperate will to survive and preserve my offspring. I must have done something right to have both of my daughters' living with me today. I am blessed! Syd and JLO are my life.